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Sunday, July 22, 2012

Eff it!


I hope you all enjoyed your weekend! My weekend was...well, "eh".  My daughter's friend came over for a sleepover which was....interesting. They have this thing where they love each other one second and hate each other the next. I know that may be typical for four-year olds but I almost pulled out my hair after hearing "I'm not your friend!" over a million times.  Also, the hubby was was celebrating his 30th birthday at a casino so I was feeling a bit like a hater resentful.  Imagine me cleaning butts and wiping up stickiness all while envisioning my husband in a club swinging his shirt over his head while gyrating on some female.  Yeah, I have a vivid imagination. Well, it turns out he did none of the things I was imagining although I was giving him my "yeah, mmm-hmm" face as he described his angelic behavior.  

So...my clothing purchases have recently started reflecting my "eff it" attitude.  What do I mean? I mean that I've been opting for styles that I wouldn't normally wear.  I don't really know what spurred the attitude but I like it! Case in point: I recently spotted this dress from the ASOS website.

Cute right? Well, after clicking the link I tried convincing myself why the dress wouldn't work for me. It was strapless! It was fitted! It was too stripey! It was strapless! For those of you that are new readers know this, Izzy no likey her arms. I embrace all my other lumps and bumps but for some reason my arms upset me. With the dress languishing in my shopping cart, here is a sampling of the argument I had with myself:

"So what if it's strapless? I can just throw a shrug over it"
"Kinda defeats the purpose of it being strapless though"
"The peplum is nice and flattering"
"You have 400 things that are peplum, underwear included"
"But my arms!" (said in a really whiny voice)
"Woman up"
"But my arms!"
"Yeah? so what about your arms? You use them to hold and comfort your children, to console others, to cook, to clean, to carry burdens and joys...basically, to hold it down!"
"yeah, eff it!"

So after the "place order" button was pressed, I felt great! I waited a week for my package to arrive and began to assemble the outfit in my mind...

So what do you think? I'm not totally crazy about the dress on me but I feel triumphant nonetheless.  I still don't love my arms but challenging myself in this way brings me one step closer to accepting and loving all of me...without conditions.  I didn't intend to be so matchy-matchy but that's how things kinda worked out. Also, I was not trying to style my hair so I decided to throw on another banged wig.  This one is "Lala" and it's by FreeTress.  I think it's safe to say that my fascination with bangs has come to an end...for now...

Dress: ASOS (main range but the dress is super stretchy)
Clutch: Aldos
Necklace: Free People
Earrings: F21
Shoes: Corso Como "Del" pump
Bangles: Oasis via ASOS

So what about you? What part of your body are you the least comfortable with? What steps are you taking to be more accepting of your body?

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog! I love hearing from you so please comment below!


  1. I love this dress. I hate my arms too, but I can see myself wearing this with a light denim jacket because my arms are something I will probably not get over any time soon lol. I do embrace the rest of me though.

  2. I love it! Way proud of you for saying "eff it." It's the little victories like this that matter.

  3. I think this dress looks AMAZING on you! I love the peplum. I also have issues with my arms. Just trying to bare them more often and let myself get used to them.

  4. I love this dress!! You look beautifull. I would say for me my arms one bad angle in a photo or something and I feel rubbish about them for days!



  5. I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE this on you!!!

  6. love this dress! you look fab! and yes i too don't really like my arms,but i am wearing them out slowly but surely :)

  7. Personally, I don't think there is anything wrong with your arms. You look beautiful. I used to complain about my arm fat all of the time too until I met the most delightful man who'd lost one of his arms. Keep embracing all of you!

  8. Omg! This is gorgeous! I LOVE THIS OUTFT!! I really don't care for my stomach but I'm working on it by walking and doing exercises. Ugh, this outfit is just too cute!!!

  9. I am glad you said "Eff It" because you look fabulous!!! It is so funny how we limit ourselves because of our bad imaging we have stuck in our heads. I have issues with my thing thighs but I am working throught it.

    Again, you look great!


  10. Izzy your look great hun!


  11. Gorgeous! I love this look on you. I actually just looked at this dress the other night before I found your blog. Great minds!

    I can definitely relate to how you feel. I feel the same way about my legs. Just short and stumpy to me, but I'm embracing them by slowly wearing more things that show them off.

    1. Great minds indeed!

      I believe the pathway to individual body acceptance requires baby steps! We'll get there!

  12. You look beautiful. I would love to see the nail ring again...


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